If I did I lied. In my defense I try not to claim to actually know what I'm talking about in these posts. Also in my defense it would be completely out of character for me to write something that didn't include some personal vendetta...
Okay, vendetta of the week... er, month: Sensible girls falling in love with the bad boy. The cliche of forbidden love.
Let me explain my position before I expound upon the surprising conclusion I reached (that's how all my blogs go, right?) I'll add a disclaimer; my position on this has been heavily influenced by conversations I've had with close friends about it. If you read this and you think "Hey, I told her that!" take it as a compliment.
The foundation of the matter is that if you're falling in love with someone that obviously, hopefully means you want to marry him someday. If you are a sensible, Godly woman then you should also know that Ephesians 5 says wives should submit to their husbands in everything and that the husband is the spiritual head of the household. (Don't get caught up in the submission thing, I'm still my stubborn, independent and fairly girl-power self. The rest of the chapter talks about wives loving their husbands. Nothing wrong with letting your man lead if he loves you like Christ.) Please correct me if I'm wrong, I don't have any experience with being in love with a delinquent, but I'm pretty sure that the bad boy is probably a bit spiritually lacking. Thus: not eligible to be spiritual head of household. Thus: not husband material. Thus: please don't fall in love with him.
So there's your surprisingly brief explanation of my opinion of this subject. This extends to my various friends and their crushes as well as to fictional characters. (Please, *insert character's name*, stop trying to reform him!)
But! (Here is that crucial "but" that makes all the difference in my blogs.) There is another very difficult teaching that comes into play here. Very difficult. Also very basic. Love your enemies. Love your neighbor. Welcome "the one who is weak in faith."
My first instinct when I run into such a character is to grab my friend and run. I suppose if I'm trying to be a good example that probably isn't the best idea. Though not husband material, these young men do need Godly friends to lead them in the right direction.
So, while it's not a good idea to marry the bad boy and then try to reform him, it's still a good idea to be trying to reform him. It's a dangerous line to tread, helping him while not allowing yourself to fall in love with him or vice versa, but opportunities to have an influence on someone else's life should not be missed.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
But seriously, girl. Stop falling in love with the bad boy, there's a much more deserving man out there somewhere who doesn't want you to settle for less.
